Love Warrior Wedding Wrap-up

I joked with the newlyweds over the holidays, “I’m done” I say.

“No more wedding blogs!”

Also me, “nah, just one more…”

It really was the best day of 2018, maybe even the best day of my life.

Maybe? Yes, it was.

But enough already, right?

This is it, I swear, final thoughts and revelations from this epic celebration of all that is love.

In the last blog, I gave you Allison’s blessing. Hayden’s deserves equal time.

Because, look at them.

 Lindsay’s bookends. They know her intimately.

And just what did her little brother have to say?

“Lindsay and Natalie I see you both as tenacious warriors for love. Lindsay, as your brother I have felt the power of your love my entire life. From collecting bugs on McCollum street to late night conversations on beaches, rooftops and front porches all over California. Your ability to listen, support and provide guiding consolation is unmatched and a special blessing for anyone you come in contact with. Natalie, as I have gotten to know you it quickly became clear that Lindsay had met an amazing person. Your kindness, intelligence and love of life is apparent in even the shortest conversation. You both speak and act from a place of love. You represent and advocate for all the beauty love can bring.”

He went on…

“I hope that you will continue to do the things you have always done so well. Stretch towards goodness, bigness and kindness, learn about yourselves and share that with each other. Continue on as the warriors for love that you so naturally are. I love you both and thank you for letting me be a part of this beautiful ceremony and spectacular day.”

He made the meadow glow…

 Oh this day!

There in front of me, were all three of my children, declaring love as the most powerful and important thing. These fully formed humans  know the secret. It’s all about love and beaches!!

I have succeeded!!

It remains in me today, a glorious feeling of accomplishment.

To know they know, it’s everything.

We are a family of hand-holding, beach forward love warriors!!

Merriment ensued, and the celebration in the barn lasted till the wee hours…

But then, Sunday Funday, clean up the ranch day.

We were all a little worn out, drained from all the festivities, but still connecting, and so much clean up to handle.

Wild Brother Bill from Jackson Hole, loved riding at the top of the truck, bossing out directions, dodging fairy garland.

Goddess bless our friends that came to lend a hand. Goddess, bless them!

I don’t have any pictures, but once the barn was clear, Jillian and Liz guided everyone through a series of yoga poses, with a long savasana, like a cherry on top.

Cousins re-connected.

Everywhere you looked, there was a Jennie. I like that.

My Johnny and I didn’t fight once. (I can be bossy, ya know?)

Everyone showed up with an amazing “get ‘er done” attitude.

There was plenty to do, and we did it.

The excitement of the day?

  Allison doing her first front flip into Veronica Lake!



Everyone was in love. It consumed us. We were welcomed into a new family, that came with twenty other families, we were now Hog Farmers.

Could it be true?  This was now a part of us?

So we went for Thanksgiving to be sure, and fell in love all over again.

Just last week Evan and Irene were in town visiting family. They dropped in for an afternoon tea. Family confirmed.

It’s a wrap!

What a magical event, the blending of two + twenty families.

Thank you newlyweds for having this three-day wedding celebration.

It was the most wonderful experience.

Merry Christmas, Everyone

I promised at least two more wedding blogs before the end of the year. My Q4 was very distracting, full of big surprises and changes for the
Bucks County Corporation.

All the while,  I just wanted to write about the wedding and
these two knuckleheads!

I mean Newlyweds!!

Allison and Hayden were asked to give blessings at the ceremony.

I give you Allison’s blessing today.

As a side note, she’s a hella dancer, as is her sister.

They got the moves.

Have I mentioned how proud I am of my kids?

O yeah, only one thousand times.

 Allison’s Blessing for Natalie and Lindsay’s Wedding Day

“For those of you who don’t know us, we are a family that takes
Christmas very seriously.

My father serves as choir director for a rowdy crew of sixty or so Christmas Eve carolers  – many of whom you find seated beside you – my mother decks out the house and just this year spent many afternoons creating tiny, glittered houses for her seasonal display of miniatures, we eat too much sticky toffee pudding, and wrap all of our presents in pillowcases.

So it is one of the many magical serendipities of their love story that Lindsay would fall hard for Natalie Rose, a woman born on Christmas Day.

At the first Christmas that Natalie Rose spent with our family, Natalie borrowed from the Fleetwood Mac anthem of their romance and made my sister a
perfect piece of embroidery that reads:

You Make Loving Fun.

Lindsay -You make everything fun.

You are yours before you are ever anyone else’s.

You love courageously and approach life with panache and a
deep and honest attention.

And it is possible that there is no truer thing that I could say up here today.
About my sister. About Natalie.

About how they love each other…You make loving fun.

Lindsay and Natalie Rose – You make loving fun.

You also make loving more epic. More generous. More serious.

More ridiculous.

It is filled with rainbows and rust.

Occasional calamities, tooth crushing, and frequent moments of grace.

I’m moved that neither one of you is being “given away”.

That Lindsay asked me and Hayden to stand here and give some sort of blessing that welcomed Natalie into the family, and celebrated the start of a more expanded definition and experience of our family.

It is a testament to how you love each other, but also how you love your family, your friends, this land.

That there is never less, but always more.

And so, my blessing for you is that you feel something akin to the words
of Raymond Carver:

And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so?

I did.

And what did you want?

To call myself beloved, to feel myself.

Beloved on the earth.

Lindsay Cook. Natalie Rose Cook.

You are beloved oh-so-beloved on this earth.

Today and yesterday and all the days. “

A snap of the talented author, taking a break amongst the tablecloths the day
after the wedding.

Merry Christmas, everyone. Go forth and love.